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Know What You Want Before You Start Dating
Serious relationship, marriage or just chatting? Learn how to define your expectations and values before you start meeting new people.
Le loveurOctober 19, 2026 · 3 min read
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What's newDM Gifts on Heyama: Make Your Message Stand OutDM gifts are now live on Heyama. Discover the 3 gift levels that give your first message more visibility and help it stand out.October 11, 2026 · 1 min read
AdviceRelationship Mistakes: Why Do We Keep Repeating Them?Why do we keep falling into the same kind of relationship? Understand what drives repeated relationship mistakes and how to break the cycle.September 20, 2026 · 3 min read
AdviceFinding Love: Why It Seems Easier for Some PeopleFinding love is not just about luck. Discover the key factors that help some people meet the right partner more easily, and how to apply them.September 14, 2026 · 3 min read
What's newDaily Login Streak: Earn Rewards Every Day on HeyamaDiscover the Heyama login streak: log in every day to earn coins, unlock mystery rewards every 7 days and reach the day 28 Jackpot.August 24, 2026 · 1 min read
What's newCard Payments on Heyama, Now Available WorldwideVisa, Mastercard, CB, Bancontact: you can now buy Heyama coins by bank card wherever you are in the world, even without Mobile Money.August 19, 2026 · 1 min read
SafetyVerified Profiles: Do They Make Dating Safer?Fake profiles, identity theft, misleading photos: find out how verified profiles make dating safer and which good habits to keep.August 15, 2026 · 2 min read
AdviceDating Apps: Should You Tell Your Friends and Family?Embarrassment, fear of judgement, wary relatives: should you tell people you use a dating app? Our tips on when and how to talk about it.August 4, 2026 · 3 min read
Heyama guidesCompatible Matches: How Heyama Selects ThemIntentions, values, compatibility criteria: find out how Heyama suggests more compatible matches and how to get the most out of them.July 5, 2026 · 2 min read
AdviceToo Much Choice on Dating Apps: Why It Can HurtHundreds of profiles but no real connection? Understand how too much choice on dating apps affects you, and simple habits to avoid the trap.June 28, 2026 · 2 min read
AdviceWhy We Are Attracted to the Wrong PeopleAttraction or compatibility? Learn why you keep falling for the wrong people and how to choose relationships that are truly good for you.June 21, 2026 · 3 min read
AdviceHow to Take Stock of Your Love LifeSingle or in a relationship, learn how to take stock of your love life: the right questions, lessons from the past and the mistakes to avoid.May 31, 2026 · 3 min read
What's newHeyama New Features: More Coins, Wave and Message ControlMore coins for the same price, promotions, Wave payments, an important notifications space and more control over your DMs: what's new on Heyama.May 25, 2026 · 2 min read
AdviceWhich Dating App to Meet Africans? Why Heyama Stands OutLooking for a dating app to meet Africans in Africa or the diaspora? Intention, verified profiles, Mobile Money: here is why Heyama stands out.May 3, 2026 · 2 min read
SafetyUse Heyama Discreetly: 2 Simple Privacy TipsScreenshot blocking and incognito mode: 2 simple tips to use Heyama discreetly, protect your privacy and meet new people at your own pace.March 22, 2026 · 1 min read
RelationshipsMarch 8: Celebrating Women's Strength and IndependenceOn March 8, Heyama celebrates women's strength, independence and love, and recalls that a good relationship is built on respect and equality.March 8, 2026 · 1 min read
What's newHeyama Update: Voice Messages and MoreVoice messages, faster sign-up, blocked screenshots, a new mascot and announcements in your inbox: everything about the latest Heyama update.February 23, 2026 · 1 min read
AdviceValentine's Day Ideas for Couples and SinglesIn a relationship or single, simple and practical ideas to enjoy a beautiful Valentine's Day this year, without pressure or a big budget.February 13, 2026 · 3 min read
AdviceValentine's Day: Could This Be Your Year for Love?Valentine's Day is coming: what if this year you gave love a chance? Practical tips to dare to meet someone new before February 14.February 7, 2026 · 2 min read
AdviceNew Year's Resolution: Find a Partner This YearNew year, new resolution: getting into a relationship. Practical tips to make room for love and actually keep your resolution this year.January 25, 2026 · 2 min read
AdviceDating Someone Outside Your City: The Real BenefitsDating someone outside your city widens your choices and deepens the connection. Discover the benefits and our tips to make it work from day one.January 9, 2026 · 3 min read
RelationshipsSigns Your Relationship Is Heading in the Right DirectionHonest talk, respect, closeness, shared goals: discover the signs that your relationship is heading in the right direction and can last.December 12, 2025 · 3 min read
Heyama guidesHeyama Features: How to Get the Most Out of ThemBoost, Profile Views, Favourites, Incognito Mode: learn how to use each Heyama feature to boost your chances of a match and meet the right people.November 24, 2025 · 2 min read
SafetyFake Profiles: How Heyama Keeps Profiles Real and SeriousVerification, moderation, clear intentions: see how Heyama fights fake profiles and learn how to spot a suspicious account yourself.November 10, 2025 · 2 min read
RelationshipsSmall Gestures That Make Love LastA message, a thank you, real listening: discover the small everyday gestures that make love last, plus simple ideas you can put into practice tonight.October 26, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceSerious Intentions on a Dating App: How to Spot ThemComplete profile, steady conversations, clear intentions: the signs of serious intentions on a dating app, plus the questions to ask without pressure.October 4, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceGreen Flags to Look For on a Dating AppBalanced conversation, clear intentions, respect: here are the green flags that show, from the first messages, that a match is serious and sincere.September 22, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceRed Flags to Spot on a Dating AppVague intentions, over-the-top compliments, pressure to meet: here are the red flags to spot in the first messages on a dating app, and how to react.September 7, 2025 · 2 min read
RelationshipsDisagreements in a Relationship: How to Communicate BetterDisagreeing is normal when you are in love. Learn how to listen, speak without hurting and turn arguments into real conversations as a couple.September 1, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceWhen to Meet Your Online Match in PersonEasy conversation, clear intentions, trust: the signs it is time to meet in person, the mistakes to avoid and how to suggest a first date safely.August 18, 2025 · 3 min read
AdviceFirst Dating App Message: What to Say and What to AvoidOn a dating app, your first message sets the tone. Examples, good habits and mistakes to avoid so you catch their attention from the very start.August 6, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceFinding Love Abroad: The Challenges Africans FaceCulture shock, prejudice, isolation: why finding love abroad is hard for Africans in the diaspora, and how to succeed in spite of it all.July 28, 2025 · 2 min read
What's newBoost and Profile Views: New on HeyamaBoost puts your profile in the spotlight for 1 or 24 hours, and Profile Views show who checked you out. Discover these two new Heyama features.July 27, 2025 · 1 min read
RelationshipsComparing Your Relationship to Others: A Toxic HabitSocial media, family, friends: comparing your relationship hurts your couple. Why we do it and how to stop so you can live your own love story.July 14, 2025 · 2 min read
RelationshipsExpressing Your Needs in a Relationship: Why It MattersNobody can read minds. Why keeping your needs to yourself hurts your relationship, and how to express them with respect, with example phrases.July 7, 2025 · 2 min read
RelationshipsToo Much Control Kills Love: Learn to Trust Your PartnerConstant texts, monitoring, jealousy: control in a relationship smothers love. Understand where it comes from and how to build trust instead.June 30, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceHow to Tell if Someone on a Dating App Is SeriousOn a dating app, how can you tell if someone is really serious? The reassuring signs, the warning signs and the questions worth asking early on.June 16, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceOnline Dating: 5 Mistakes to Avoid and How to Fix ThemRushing, pretending, ignoring safety: the 5 mistakes that ruin your chances of finding love online, and how to fix them starting tomorrow.June 9, 2025 · 2 min read
RelationshipsLong-distance relationships: do they really work?Did you meet someone far away online? Learn what keeps a long-distance relationship alive, the mistakes to avoid and how Heyama lets you choose.June 1, 2025 · 3 min read
AdviceDating apps in Africa: why singles now rely on themSingle in Africa? Find out why dating apps have become essential, what a good app should offer and how to use one well to find love.May 11, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceIs love a matter of destiny or choice?Is love written in the stars or built by choice? Explore the soulmate myth, the role of your decisions and how to create your own chances of love.April 28, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceDating app mistakes: the worst ones to avoidSloppy profile, copy-paste messages, lies: the 7 worst dating app mistakes and how to fix them so you attract the right person.April 14, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceOne-night stands: pros and consTempted by a one-night stand? Its real pros and cons, the golden rules to enjoy it safely and how to work out what you truly want from dating.March 29, 2025 · 3 min read
AdviceFirst date mistakes to avoidBeing late, your phone, your ex, talking nonstop: the 7 mistakes that ruin a first date and what to do instead to land a second one.March 17, 2025 · 3 min read
RelationshipsRelationship mistakes to avoid for a happy coupleExes, online flirting, things left unsaid, comparisons: the mistakes that damage a couple and the habits that build a healthy, lasting relationship.March 3, 2025 · 2 min read
What's newFavourites on Heyama: never lose track of your crushesNew on Heyama: Favourites. Save the profiles you've liked and send them a message later. Here's how the feature works, in four simple steps.February 16, 2025 · 1 min read
RelationshipsLong-distance relationship tips to keep the spark aliveVideo calls, gifts, reunions and trust: practical tips to keep a long-distance relationship strong and the spark alive despite the kilometres.January 31, 2025 · 2 min read
What's newHeyama in 2024: the new features that shaped the yearIncognito Mode, a redesigned inbox, Activity, advanced filters and coins: a look back at the new features that changed Heyama in 2024.January 17, 2025 · 2 min read
AdviceGetting Out of the Friend Zone: 6 Steps That WorkFriend zone: how to read where you stand, share your feelings without ruining everything, and what to do if they don't feel the same.December 15, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceIs She Ready for Marriage? 6 Signs to Look ForSix signs that a woman is ready for marriage, other clues worth noticing, and how to bring up the subject with her without putting on pressure.December 2, 2024 · 3 min read
What's newIncognito Mode on Heyama: Hide Your ProfileIncognito Mode comes to Heyama: a profile only the people you choose can see, a secret code lock, hidden online status and how to turn it on.November 24, 2024 · 2 min read
RelationshipsStarting a Relationship: 3 Essential Habits to AdoptStarting a relationship means changing a few habits: the 3 essential ones, more good reflexes to adopt and the mistakes to avoid at the beginning.November 11, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceWhat Attracts Men to a Woman: 7 Things That CountA smile, quick wit, a nice scent, being natural: 7 things that attract men to a woman, and how to show them on a dating app profile.November 3, 2024 · 3 min read
RelationshipsIs She Pretending to Love You? 5 Telling Signs5 signs a woman is pretending to love you, the nuances to keep in mind and how to react if you recognise your own relationship in these lines.October 27, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceIf He Says This, He's Flirting: 5 Phrases to Know"Find me a wife", "Show me your nails"... 5 phrases that show a man is flirting with you, what they really mean and how to respond.October 20, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceSeduce a Woman by Text: 8 Techniques That WorkSwap "Are you asleep?" and "How are you?" for messages that stand out: 8 practical techniques to seduce a woman by text, with examples.October 13, 2024 · 3 min read
Relationships5 Phrases That Kill Love in a Relationship"Forget it", "If you say so", "Ok": 5 phrases that kill love in a relationship, what to say instead and how to break the habit for good.October 11, 2024 · 3 min read
Heyama guidesHow to Delete Your Heyama AccountHow to delete your Heyama account in three steps from your profile and settings, plus the alternatives worth knowing before you decide.September 3, 2024 · 1 min read
AdviceTake Charge of Your Love Life on HeyamaStop waiting for luck: make the first move, use Heyama coins wisely and avoid the mistakes that hold back your dating life.September 1, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceFirst Time Having Sex: How to Know You Are ReadyYour first time: listening to yourself, consent, protection, values and timing. Clear guidance to help you know when you are ready.August 25, 2024 · 3 min read
What's newHeyama Payments: Coin Packs and Payment MethodsPayments arrive on Heyama: how to buy coins, the 4 available coin packs and the payment methods accepted at launch, from Mobile Money to cards.August 4, 2024 · 2 min read
RelationshipsMake Your Relationship Last: 4 Mistakes to AvoidComparing, digging up the past, refusing a meal, showing disrespect: 4 mistakes that hurt your relationship and how to avoid them.July 28, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceHow to Flirt on a Dating App After a MatchGot a match? 8 tips on how to flirt on a dating app, with sample messages and the mistakes to avoid if you want to land a first date.July 21, 2024 · 3 min read
Relationships5 Phrases That Make a Man Fall Deeply in Love5 phrases that make a man fall deeply in love, how to say them at the right moment and the mistakes that make them lose their power.July 14, 2024 · 3 min read
SafetyProtect Your Identity on Dating Apps: Safety Tips7 tips to protect your identity on dating apps, the warning signs to look out for and the safety measures Heyama has put in place.July 7, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceWhen to Get Into a Relationship: 7 Signs You Are ReadyWhen should you get into a relationship? 7 signs you are ready for something serious and the wrong reasons to commit too quickly.June 30, 2024 · 3 min read
RelationshipsHow to Act Around Your Ex: 9 Practical TipsStaying friends, working together or cutting ties: 9 practical tips on how to act around your ex while protecting your peace of mind.June 16, 2024 · 3 min read
RelationshipsCouple conflict: the main causes and how to resolve themCommunication, money, trust, stress: discover the 5 main causes of conflict in a couple and practical solutions to calm things down for good.June 2, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceWhy men appreciate women who workIndependence, shared projects, shared responsibilities: discover the 5 reasons why so many men appreciate women who work and have their own career.May 26, 2024 · 3 min read
RelationshipsManipulation in a relationship: 5 warning signs in a manSecrets, absences, a hidden relationship, ignored boundaries: 5 signs a man is manipulating you, and what you can do to protect yourself.May 19, 2024 · 3 min read
RelationshipsQuestions women don't like to hear in a relationshipExes, intimacy, money, comparisons: the questions women don't like to hear in a relationship, and better ways to raise these topics with tact.May 12, 2024 · 2 min read
What's newDating app: why you should give Heyama a chanceLet down by dating apps? Intention filters, safety, an active community and useful features: 5 reasons to give Heyama a chance to find love.May 5, 2024 · 2 min read
AdvicePartner's intentions: how to read them early onSerious relationship or passing fling? Our tips to understand your partner's intentions early on and avoid misunderstandings from the start.April 28, 2024 · 2 min read
RelationshipsHow to end a relationship peacefully: 7 tipsBreaking up without drama is possible. 7 tips to end a relationship peacefully and respectfully, for your own sake and for your partner's too.April 21, 2024 · 2 min read
RelationshipsWin back your partner after an argumentStepping back, talking, empathy, kind gestures: the keys to win back your partner after an argument and come out of the crisis even stronger.April 14, 2024 · 2 min read
AdviceApproaching a woman: 5 questions to ask yourself firstBefore you approach a woman, ask yourself these 5 honest questions about her lifestyle, your means and your intentions, and avoid disappointment.April 7, 2024 · 2 min read
RelationshipsSuccessful marriage: 5 secrets for a strong coupleTalking, seduction, forgiveness, priority, prayer: 5 simple secrets to make your marriage work and build a strong couple that lasts for years.March 31, 2024 · 2 min read
AdviceSerious relationship: 5 signs you are readyHealed wounds, self-confidence, shared goals: 5 signs that tell you whether you are truly ready for a serious relationship.March 24, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceHeartbreak: how to handle it and bounce backBreakup, betrayal or unrequited love: 5 practical steps to handle heartbreak, heal at your own pace and bounce back stronger.March 17, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceEnd your single life in Africa with dating appsSingle woman in Africa? See how a dating app like Heyama helps you end your single life quickly and safely, plus steps to start.March 11, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceFinding love in Africa: the rise of online datingHow dating apps help you find love in Africa, what Heyama offers and 5 practical tips to make online dating work for you.February 25, 2024 · 2 min read
Heyama guidesWhat are coins for on Heyama?Extra DMs, DMs filtered by your criteria and a virtual wallet: find out what coins are for on Heyama and how to get them for free.February 16, 2024 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesHow to get coins on HeyamaTap the coin icon or 'Buy more coins' from your profile: here is how to get coins on Heyama, with a short video tutorial.February 16, 2024 · 1 min read
What's newHeyama update: coins, filters and virtual walletCoin system, advanced filters, virtual wallet and city filter: everything the new Heyama update brings to your dating experience.February 15, 2024 · 1 min read
RelationshipsAre we in a relationship? 5 key signs to knowExclusivity, commitment, open communication: the signs that show you are really in a relationship, and how to talk about it calmly.February 4, 2024 · 2 min read
Heyama guidesHeyama referral: how to invite your friendsMy wallet, Get more coins, Refer a friend: invite your friends to Heyama and you each earn 200 coins once they verify their account.February 4, 2024 · 1 min read
AdviceFinding time for love when work keeps you busyDemanding job, packed schedule? Practical tips to find time for love and meet someone special without sacrificing your career.January 28, 2024 · 3 min read
AdviceDating bio tips: how to introduce yourself on HeyamaAuthenticity, humour, passions, clear intentions: our tips and a real example to help you write a dating bio that stands out on Heyama.January 21, 2024 · 3 min read
SafetyIntimate photos on dating apps: why you should never shareLeaks, blackmail, reputation: why you should never share intimate photos on a dating app, and what to do if someone asks you for them.January 7, 2024 · 2 min read
SafetyChat safely on Heyama: essential safety tipsUnverified matches, automatic warnings, reporting and blocking: the right habits to chat safely on Heyama and enjoy dating with peace of mind.December 18, 2023 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesEnd a chat, block or report a profile on HeyamaA step-by-step guide to ending a conversation, blocking an unwanted profile or reporting inappropriate behaviour on the Heyama dating app.December 11, 2023 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesReopen an ended conversation on HeyamaEnded a conversation and want to get back in touch? Here is how to find it in your archives and reopen it on Heyama in a few simple steps.December 11, 2023 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesFind a profile you skipped on HeyamaSkipped a profile too quickly? With your Heyama history, find it again in two steps, then like it or send a DM straight away. Here is how.December 11, 2023 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesContact a profile on Heyama: heart, DM or crossHeart, DM or cross: discover the three ways to respond to a profile on Heyama, how a match is created and when to send a direct message.December 11, 2023 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesVerify your Heyama profile: step-by-step guideA single selfie is all it takes to verify your Heyama profile. Here are the steps, our tips for a successful photo and a short video guide.December 3, 2023 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesHeyama filters: refine your profile searchCountry, age, gender, verified profiles, DMs: discover Heyama's filters to see the profiles that suit you best on your home page.December 3, 2023 · 1 min read
AdviceProfile photo tips: what to do and avoid on HeyamaGet your Heyama profile photo right: our tips for a clear, authentic picture, and the mistakes that put off the people you want to meet.November 30, 2023 · 3 min read
Heyama guidesHow Heyama works: a guide to the dating appHow does Heyama work? Likes, DMs, matches, favourites, history, filters, coins and incognito mode: a full tour of the dating app.November 26, 2023 · 1 min read
AdviceSingle or in a relationship: which suits you?Single or in a relationship? The upsides of each, the questions to ask yourself to know if you are ready, and how Heyama can help.November 19, 2023 · 3 min read
AdviceTinder or Heyama: which dating app should you choose?Tinder or Heyama? Compare a general dating app with one built for Africans and the diaspora, and pick the one that fits what you want.November 11, 2023 · 2 min read
What's newHeyama update: richer conversations, more citiesPhotos in chat, replies to a specific message, reopened conversations and cities worldwide: everything new in this Heyama update.November 7, 2023 · 1 min read
RelationshipsLong-distance relationship: 8 keys to make it lastCommunication, visits, trust, shared goals: 8 practical keys to keep a long-distance relationship strong and your bond alive.November 5, 2023 · 2 min read
AdviceAfter a first date: 10 tips to build the relationshipHad a great first date? Here are 10 practical tips to keep in touch, build trust and help your new relationship grow at the right pace.October 29, 2023 · 3 min read
AdviceThe 3 types of singles: which one are you?Single by choice, too busy, or still searching? Discover the 3 types of singles and our practical tips to find love in your situation.October 22, 2023 · 3 min read
RelationshipsHow to get over your ex: 5 tips to move onHow do you get over your ex and move on after a breakup? 5 practical tips, the mistakes to avoid and how to open up to new people.October 14, 2023 · 2 min read
What's newHeyama update: see who liked your profileSee who liked your profile, filter for verified profiles only and review the profiles you passed: the three new features in this Heyama update.October 2, 2023 · 1 min read
AdviceFirst date tips: 7 keys to a successful datePlace, timing, attitude and safety: practical tips to make your first date a success after meeting someone on a dating app.October 1, 2023 · 3 min read
AdviceBest dating profile photos: 7 tips to stand outMain photo, lighting, lifestyle shots and mistakes to avoid: 7 tips to pick dating profile photos that make people want to know you.September 24, 2023 · 2 min read
AdviceStarting a conversation after a match on HeyamaGot a match on Heyama? 6 simple tips, real examples and the mistakes to avoid to start a conversation that makes them want to reply.September 11, 2023 · 2 min read
AdviceDating apps: 4 reasons to use one to find loveConvenience, choice, precision and privacy: find out why a dating app can help you find love faster, plus the habits that make it work.September 4, 2023 · 2 min read
What's newHeyama DMs: message the profiles you like directlyWith DMs on Heyama, send a personal message to the profiles you like and make the first move. Here is what this new feature changes.August 28, 2023 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesHeyama intentions: meet people who want the sameLove, a drink, a night out or a night in: on Heyama, icons show each profile's intention so you meet people who want the same as you.August 8, 2023 · 1 min read
Heyama guidesChatting on Heyama: Like, Match and Pass explainedHow do you chat with a profile you like on Heyama? Like, Match and Pass explained simply, plus our tips to get matches faster.August 8, 2023 · 2 min read
SafetyProfile verification on Heyama: 3 reasons it mattersTrust, better matches and safety: why verifying your profile on a dating app makes all the difference, and how to keep it in good shape.August 4, 2023 · 2 min read
What's newHeyama: the dating app for Africa and its diasporaMeet Heyama, the dating app for Africa and its diaspora: how it works, intention icons that save you time, and our commitment to safety.August 4, 2023 · 1 min read
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